People who successfully build intimate relationships with friends and/or a significant other know of the benefits a good relationship can provide in an individual's life:
Don’t try to relate to others by acting like you think they would want/expect you to. Being real from the start gives each person a chance to see if they can be comfortable with each others' beliefs, interests, looks, and lifestyle.
This is an essential skill in a good relationship of any type.
Take the relationship from MY WAY/YOUR WAY to OUR WAY through negotiation and compromise. Start the problem solving by listening to and respecting each others' point of view. Conflicts are more easily addressed when both people participate in the solution, instead of one person dominating the decision making process. Aim for a balance of power.
Give equal importance to the feelings, interests, and needs of each person in the relationship. Develop the skill of both giving and receiving emotional support.
Let good humor and fun together be a part of your regular schedule.
If you are struggling with a relationship and would like more assistance or counseling, please contact Counseling Services
Special Thanks to the UW-Oshkosh Counseling Center for this content
Virtual Pamphlet Collection (topics compiled from top college counseling centers)
Page updated 1/07/2013 by Mark Huttemier, MA, LPC. Personal Counselor in Student Health and Counseling at University of Wisconsin – River Falls